Five Tips for Initiating a Break-Up
Dumping somebody is never easy. But we've got a list here to help make it as painless as possible. It's five tips from "Cosmo" on how to initiate a break-up.
#1.) Do It at the End of the Day, But Not at Night. Mornings are too rushed, and you'll probably ruin the whole day for BOTH of you. But if you wait too long, you might lose your resolve and not do it at all. Plus, you don't want to do it TOO late, because you won't be able to call your friends if you need to rehash what went down.
#2.) Start with Something Positive. For example, say something like, "I have a great time with you," or "I love your sense of humor." Then follow it with something like, "But we're just not a good match." Starting with something positive can make bad news easier to take.
#3.) Focus on Yourself, Not Them. But don't say "It's not you, it's me." It's just too much of a cliché at this point. Say something like "I'm at a point where I need something different" or "I'm too busy with work right now." You're already dumping them, so there's no need to hurt them even more by listing all THEIR flaws.
#4.) Hear Them Out. Don't let the conversation last FIVE HOURS. But definitely let them say what they need to. If it starts feeling like they're going in circles, just say something like, "We could go over this forever. It's just not working out."
#5.) Don't Talk to Them for at Least a Month. That means no phone calls, texts, or Facebook messages. If they still want to be friends, tell them you hope you can be SOME DAY. But right now you need to spend time apart.